The astrology behind why you keep attracting the same type of relationship over and over again... —Alice Bell - Astrology & Lifestyle (2023)

Setting career goals and pursuing what I want at work comes naturally to me, but my love life is a different story. I never seem to know what I need in a partner, which is why I don't attract the best of relationships. For a while I dated guys who didn't want to grow up. They usually worked odd jobs and had no idea who they were or where they were going. Getting into a committed relationship wasn't exactly the first thing on her to-do list. Every time I wanted to get closer and have their full attention, they would walk away.

But why have I created this same type of Peter Pan energy over and over again? Was it really a reflection of myself? This is where understanding the descending line on your chart comes in.

Understand Downline

You probably already know your ascendant. Your promotion is how you come across when people first meet you, it's the qualities you like to express. It also describes your personal style and appearance.

The fall versus rise is the descending line. This angle on your chart describes other qualities you have but may be reluctant to embrace. Instead, you can project them onto a partner without even realizing it. The traits that draw you to a certain person are often the traits you need to work on in yourself.

Think about most of your friends or previous people you dated: is your sun sign the same as your downline? For example, if you are a Scorpio ascendant, you may have many Taurus friends, date Taurus, or have a parent with Taurus qualities.

Some examples

So what parts of myself was I projecting onto the people I was meeting with? With the ascendant Leo I can appear self-confident and creative. However, with an Aquarius descendant, I have trouble expressing the traits that make me unique because I'm often afraid of what others might think. So I look for partners who are a bit weird and not your normal type because unlike me they are okay with their weirdness.

Other Aquarius traits include impulsive action, emotional detachment, and the need for plenty of freedom without feeling restricted. So it makes sense that these were the types of types that she kept attracting. The Leo ascendant in me worries too much about everything, so it was refreshing to hang out with people who were complete opposites.

Still, I've had to take a break from dating for the past year and a half to fully understand myself. I had to be completely comfortable being myself and not trying to hide my differences. In the future I will not need a partner who will give me these qualities.

As another example, let's take someone with Virgo ascendant. They probably seem close together and above it all. However, they are not people who show much emotion. They prefer to talk and analyze situations, but when it comes to expressing their feelings, it's more difficult.

Now look for the sign opposite Virgo. is Pisces. If you have a Virgo ascendant, you automatically have a Pisces offspring. Unlike Virgo, Pisces is super emotional and sensitive. Pisces are also in touch with how other people are feeling and the energy surrounding them. However, Pisces also prefers fantasy to reality, so with this downline sign you may have partners who like to run away from responsibility or don't realize who they are.

A person with Virgo ascendant/Pisces descendant has these sensitive qualities in them, but you would never suspect it. Instead, they project those parts of themselves they are uncomfortable with onto their partners. They can end up in relationships where they want to save the other person, or they can attract emotionally uncontrolled partners. Until a Virgo ascendant learns to be more in touch with their own feelings, they will continue to attract the same types of relationships over and over again.

Decipher your own line of descendants

Aries Ascendant / Libra Descendant:With the ascendant Aries you appear self-confident and full of energy. You like to get things done immediately and can be a bit impatient. You may also find it difficult to be a team player because your first instinct is to just do everything yourself. With a Libra offspring, you'll attract partners who are just the opposite: they let you make the big relationship decisions, or they don't like to talk when they're upset. They may also be very dependent on you and want that romance to have a happy ending, which is something you're not overly familiar with and can be too sticky. You will likely lose interest once the initial excitement of the relationship wears off. However, you must learn to try harder and work as a team instead of just thinking about yourself and your own independence. Your challenge is to be okay with relying on someone else to support you.

Ascendant Taurus / Descendant Scorpio:With a Taurus ascendant, you present yourself as a gentle and friendly person. You appreciate the high-quality things in life and may also have a good sense of style or be involved in art or fashion. You crave comfort and stability, and you can resist change. However, your Scorpio descendant indicates a darker side of you that you may be uncomfortable with. In your relationships you are attracted to partners who are more intense and at worst can be controlling and easily jealous. You need to accept your own intensity and look to the deeper emotions that lie beneath, rather than focusing so much on superficial things. You can suppress many of your feelings, so your challenge is to bring them out into the open. Good relationships for you drive you to change and change for the better.

Ascendant Gemini / Descendant Sagittarius:With the ascendant Gemini, you like to keep your mind busy, whether that's reading, writing, talking, or checking social media all the time. They want to be informed, may feel anxious and find it difficult to relax. With a Sagittarius offspring, you will attract partners who are adventurous and willing to do anything. You may also be attracted to people from other cultures or who are educated and have strong beliefs in life. These types of people are able to maintain their short attention spans, but they can also be anywhere and oftentimes unable to keep their promises. Instead of relying on a partner to give you this life wisdom, you need to find it yourself. Once you stop obsessing over gossip and useless information and learn to see the big picture in life, you don't need a free-spirited partner to complete you.

Ascendant Cancer / Descendant Capricorn:With an ascending Cancer you are more sensitive and it may take time for you to open up. You can easily sense other people's feelings, give good advice, and are often there to offer support. You may also be more family or home oriented and likely take on the role of caretaker in your relationships. With a Capricorn offspring, you want a partner who can be the rock of your feelings, so you can choose older or more serious people. However, you could end up in relationships where the needs of the other person come first and they are always the one in charge. Your commitments can overshadow yours. The challenge for you is to learn to take control of your own life and have a relationship where the other person supports you as much as you support them.

Ascendant Leo / Descendant Aquarius:With a Leo rising you are someone who is full of life and has a rather playful spirit. You can have different creative abilities and fight for the things and people that are important to you. However, you may be overconfident and worry too much about how others see you. With an Aquarius offspring, you may be attracted to partners who are more distant and not caring as much as you are. You secretly wish you could be as cool and distant as her. The people you date can be a bit emotionally distant: they keep you on your toes, and you're always trying to win their approval. Once you become more comfortable with who you are and stop looking for other people to validate you, you will no longer be interested in caring about people who just don't care.

Ascendant Virgo / Descendant Pisces:Virgo rising means you have a strong work ethic. No detail is overlooked and you are probably very fond of your daily routines. You always want to do something productive, but you can be a bit critical and hard on yourself. With a Pisces descendant, you look to the people you date to give yourself an emotional outlet. Your partner helps you get out of this work obsession and focus more on your feelings and your intuitive qualities. However, you might attract people you think need saving or who turn out to be not the people you thought they were. You give them and pass them on because it seems romantic when in reality you're just ignoring the red flags. Once you embrace your emotions and get in touch with your own creative side, you may attract someone you can connect with on a deeper spiritual level, rather than people with destructive traits.

Libra Ascendant / Aries Descendant:With Libra ascendant you are very accommodating. You like it when all is quiet in your life and you present yourself as someone with good style and taste. You pay attention to other people's wants and needs and know when to give in. However, you may be too afraid to upset others and can be a bit of a favor to people at times. Validating yourself and asking for what you want can be scary. With an Aries offspring, you're likely to attract mates who have those confident, entrepreneurial qualities you lack. The people you meet may challenge you or test your patience. However, you have to learn when to set boundaries. Once you become more comfortable taking responsibility and making decisions for yourself, your partners will stop trying to stage you as much.

Ascendant Scorpio / Descendant Taurus:With a Scorpio Ascendant, you come off as a bit strict. You find it easy to see people for who they really are and always dig beneath the surface to understand how things work. Others may find you mysterious because you don't open up easily and keep your emotions close to your chest. At times you may feel the need to control yourself or struggle with how others see you. With a Taurus offspring, you're likely to be drawn to matings that are less complex or what your friends call "simple." They can have a calmer and gentler nature and are very forthright about who they are. You lean on her for peace and stability when you really need to sort through your complex emotions and do it alone. When you learn to be kinder and more forgiving, especially towards yourself, you won't feel like you need someone else to give you those qualities.

Ascendant Sagittarius / Descendant Gemini:With a Sagittarius rising, you're someone who's always up for an adventure. You like to travel, explore foreign cultures and learn new things yourself. You are optimistic and remain open to different ways of thinking. However, at times you tend to overdo your enthusiasm, promise more than you can keep, or express wildly wild opinions. With a Gemini offspring, you may be attracted to partners who are more stylish and who can easily navigate social situations. You have the balance you may lack. However, they tend to change their minds frequently and can be very hot and cold with their feelings towards you. Until you realize that you too bring something special to the table and have compelling stories to tell, you may have trouble finding the compromise.

Capricorn ascendant / Cancer descendant:With a Capricorn ascendant, you are very career-oriented and success-oriented. You put a lot of pressure on yourself to achieve your goals and may never feel like you're doing enough. You have a more serious exterior and often people can't tell how you feel. With a Cancer offspring, you are looking for a partner to get in touch with your emotional side. However, it can attract people who are confused with their feelings and take them on a rollercoaster ride. You may have to constantly take care of them. Your lesson is to learn to relax and be more comfortable expressing your feelings. Being vulnerable from time to time is not so bad.

Ascendant Aquarius / Descendant Leo:With Aquarius ascendant you appear cool and collected. You don't show much emotion and half the time you lose your mind about the future. You may not like it when people get that close because you like to keep your freedom and space. They're also not that clingy physically, and the idea of ​​PDAs might frighten you. With a Leo offspring, you will attract passionate and creative partners. However, if they can't get on your nerves, they can become very dramatic and frustrated. They can go out of their way to stir the pot and get you to show some sort of emotion. Once you learn to connect with people more and don't feel so put off by intimacy, you won't have those types of relationships anymore.

Pisces Ascendant / Virgo Descendant:With a Pisces ascendant you are a big dreamer. You see the world through rose-tinted glasses and you can imagine how you would like things to be instead of facing reality. You may also like to isolate yourself and be alone most of the time as your emotions are often overwhelming. With a Virgo offspring, you will be attracted to partners who are responsible and organized. You can look for them to organize your life for you. However, they might end up criticizing you too much or making you feel like you're not competent enough to do these things on your own. You need to take control of your own responsibilities and not look for someone else to complete you.